Possibilities available to you with Winter Loneliness
How do you cope with your deep winter loneliness? Do you look back with regret at all your past decisions? Do you link them to your loneliness? This is called negativity bias. Negativity bias is like putting a grey pair of glasses with a grey tint, and looking at everything in the same negative grey light. Imagine putting magical glasses that gives the hardest event in your life meaning? Or having an invisible shield that takes in all the negative nervous system reaction regulates all your systems, and gets you productive?
This is possible for you because it is possible for me, and I am a human being with complex trauma like you, and like almost each person walking and talking that you meet.
The secret sauce is in the following:
1- Gratitude: research has shown that gratitude practice can support greater happiness and health. Wake up and say I am grateful to wake up and touch the ground, notice what happens.
2- Practice gratitude in every sensation and event that crosses your mind.
3- Be grateful even if someone else expresses a negative thought, let it remind you of your iron clad vision and clarity of your own gratitudes.
4- Energy, notice your energy. What is energy? Your energy is your most valuable currency. You protect it and nurture it with boundaries and paying attention to it. Try not to suck other people’s energy. Notice your internal parts I mentioned in the previous blog, notice the sad, lonely, angry, resentful frustrations, love them, hug them through a pillow, and scream into a pillow if you have to. Don’t let your parts blend with you and suck your energy. Shine your light on them after validating them and letting them know they are safe and their needs are met, when you show them where you are now and how you are meeting your own needs. Do your safe place self nurturing visualization in your brain by bringing the image of your internal garden of protectors. High Five them. Breath into your lower back ribs, stomp your feet on the ground, unfurrow your brow, and let your own eyes look inside.
Look inside and see the TRUE divine in you. The divine in you that is your true unshakeable center. No matter if you were a true victim as a child. No matter if the victim blended with the adult and pushed people away in the past. You know you learned your lessons, and you can see with clear eyes now.
Your clear eyes can see through the winter loneliness, this is the time when the seed of your Excellence is germinating and sprouting, so that in the spring your seed sprouts and your story is reborn again…
